Candi Colón

I work with men and couples who want to understand why their relationships keep breaking down and what they can do differently. Many of the men I support are navigating infidelity, neglect, feeling misunderstood, or a growing sense of dissatisfaction they don’t fully understand. Others come in as couples who feel stuck in the same arguments, shutdowns, or distance. They aren’t looking to be blamed or rescued. They want clarity, practical tools, and a way to communicate that doesn’t keep leading to resentment or repeated conflict.

Much of this work involves looking beneath the surface. Many people carry early experiences of betrayal, neglect, or emotional minimization from parents, siblings, or childhood environments where their needs weren’t acknowledged. Over time, this can lead to disengagement, guardedness, or reactivity in adult relationships. These patterns often shape how conflict, intimacy, anger, or withdrawal show up later in life. Together, we identify where these patterns started, how they operate now, and what needs to change to build more stable and honest connection.

I’ve been married for over 20 years and am raising three children, which has given me firsthand experience with the long arc of relationships and how easily unmet needs and poor communication erode trust. I’ve also spent years mentoring individuals and families through emotional and relational stress. That experience informs how I work with men who want to lead differently in their relationships and with couples who want to interrupt long-standing dynamics.

My approach is practical, structured, and grounded in cause and effect. I use clear, evidence-based tools to help people slow reactions, reduce defensiveness, and understand the internal drivers behind their behavior. We focus on communication skills, emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and taking ownership without collapsing into shame. The work is less about emotional intensity and more about building awareness and steadiness so different choices are possible when it matters most.

Creativity and movement have always been part of my own regulation and reset. They reinforce that growth isn’t only about problem-solving, but also about rebuilding presence, confidence, and self-respect.

Whether you’re facing the end of a relationship, repairing after infidelity, trying to communicate more effectively as a couple, or unpacking long-standing dissatisfaction rooted in family dynamics, I work with you to build clarity, accountability, and the tools needed to create real change.

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